Why Your New Year's Resolutions Keep Failing (And How to Finally Change That)

Asele Team
Jan 14
3 min read

Let's be real; we've all been there. It's January 1st, and you're filled with that magical New Year energy. You've got your planner, your new workout clothes, and enough determination to move mountains. Fast forward three weeks, and you're wondering why those perfectly planned goals feel about as achievable as climbing Everest in flip-flops.

Here's the thing: It's not you. It's not a lack of willpower. And you're definitely not "lazy."

The secret nobody tells you? Your body isn't meant to run like a perfectly programmed robot. You're working with a beautifully complex system that literally changes throughout the month. (Yes, I'm talking about our cycles, and no, this isn't another lecture about tracking them, though stick with me, because this gets interesting!)

The "Aha!" Moment That Changed Everything

Picture this: Last year, I couldn't figure out why I could crush my morning workouts one week and barely drag myself out of bed the next. Sound familiar? Then it hit me, and thousands of other women I've talked to, we've been trying to fit our cyclical bodies into a linear world.

Think about it: When was the last time someone told you it's okay to:

Crush that presentation when you're naturally confident
Take it easy when your body asks for rest
Switch up your routine based on how you actually feel
Plan your biggest goals around your natural energy peaks

Let's Get Real About Your Cycle (In a Way That Actually Makes Sense)

Week 1: The "Fresh Start" Phase

You know those days when you just want to curl up with a heating pad and plan world domination from under your blanket? That's actually perfect for reflection and planning. Your brain is literally wired for evaluation right now. Use it!

Week 2: Your "Yes I Can!" Phase

Remember that time you felt like you could take on the world? That wasn't random. This is when your energy is rising, and you're basically your own personal superhero. Perfect for:

Starting new projects
Trying that challenging workout class
Making bold moves at work

Week 3: Your "Spotlight" Phase

Ever notice how some days you're just magnetic? People are drawn to your energy, and words flow easily. This is your time to:

Lead that big meeting
Network like a pro
Nail that presentation you've been nervous about

Week 4: Your "Get It Done" Phase

When you suddenly have the urge to organize your entire life? That's not weird, it's your body's natural planning mode kicking in. Use this energy for:

Finishing projects
Detailed work
Setting up systems that make your life easier

How to Actually Make This Work (Without Obsessing Over It)

Here's the beautiful part, you don't need to turn your life into a science experiment. Start simple:

Notice Your Patterns Just pay attention to when you feel awesome and when you need more rest. That's it. No complicated tracking required (though our upcoming Asele app will make this super easy if you want to dive deeper!)
Work With Your Energy, Not Against It
- Feeling unstoppable? That's your cue to tackle bigger challenges
- Need more rest? Honor that. Your body's sending you important signals
Plan Flexibly Instead of rigid goals, think in waves:
- High energy weeks: Dream big and take action
- Lower energy weeks: Reflect and refine

The Game-Changer: Your Personal Power Calendar

Imagine having a personal assistant who knows exactly when you'll be at your best for different types of tasks. That's what understanding your cycle can do for you. And guess what? We're making this ridiculously easy with the new Asele app launching soon.

Real Talk: Why This Actually Works

Because it's based on YOU. Not some random influencer's morning routine. Not your super-organized friend's system. Your body, your rhythms, your life.

Your Next Move

Start simple. This week:

Notice your energy levels
Be curious about your patterns
Give yourself permission to work with your body, not against it

And if you want to make this journey easier? Keep an eye out for the Asele app launch Join our waitlist for the Asele App here. We've poured everything we know about making wellness actually work for real women into creating something that feels like having a friend who always has your back.

How Asele Can Help

At Asele, we’re here to support you every step of the way. Our store offers curated products to support your wellness journey, and our community is a space where you can connect, share, and grow with women who understand your journey.

Remember: You're not broken when your energy changes. You're not failing when you need rest. You're human. And that's your superpower.

Drop a comment below: What's the biggest "aha!" moment you've had about your own patterns? Let's learn from each other! 💕